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Get out of your comfort zone (introvert version)

“Comfort is the enemy of progress” – THE GREATEST SHOWMAN

First of all, I hope you all are familiar with the term introvert. Introverts are often mistaken as shy or sometimes lazy as well. But if you try to understand, it is much more than just being shy and not interacting with too many people. I am an introvert and when I was younger I never really thought that not talking with someone will put me in the list of “introvert”. I am still the same introvert person but a bit matured. I generally don’t talk with anyone that I meet and that doesn’t mean i cant start a conversation on my own. If I really want to have conversation and might find a topic which is interesting for me, you might see the inner extrovert coming out. I also have read a lot of books and have seen a lot of videos about how to make friends and influence people but if I see having good friends, I don’t have any. I am my own good friend. We all are, aren’t we? So, i hope if you didn’t know much about introverts, you might have a little bit of idea at least.

So, it’s really tough job for an introvert to come out of their comfort zone and live life like an extrovert. For some of us, comfort zone can be stay in our bedroom whole day doing what we are best at like playing games, blogging, reading books and even eating tonnes of food. And for some of us also like going out all by us like going to a restaurant all by ourself or to a comedy show or even watching a movie. It depends, we all are same but in a different way.

To stay in comfort zone is really important to us. Earlier I used to have panic attacks every time someone would visit our place and I, not able to find a place to hide was the worst. Now I don’t get panic attacks, I just learnt how to do small talks which I absolutely hate.

So, as an introvert or even as an extrovert person, to come out of your comfort zone, you have to face the “Fear Zone” which comes right after our comfort zone. In the fear zone we tend to care too much about what others will think if we do this or that. We make many different excuses and try to get away from the situation as soon as we can. But if we stay for a bit and learn to hold on, we will get to this which is the reason most of us never get what we really want. Stop neglecting and hiding or even running away from things. No one is going to even notice you and if they notice, walk with grace in your attitude and smile in your face. Make them wonder about you because you are unique and if they laugh, you laugh them off. You will learn to  enjoy your life and you cross that “fear zone” with your chin up, darling, you are on the right track.

After we learn how to ditch that “Fear Zone”, we come into “learning zone” where you will be confident enough to go yourself to a place and ask anything you want. You won’t have to tell someone else to make an appointment for you because you had fear of talking over phone. Go through few topics, write your views about them and recite it and also make it like a conversation and talk with an imaginary person. Nothing is impossible in this life. If you want it, you go and get it by yourself. Okay? In the learning you will feel relax and happy because you are enough to do anything in your life. You will learn to deal our problems and solve them without anyone’s’ help and when you be too busy in learning new things in your life, you will see growth in your life and that’s how we reach to another zone which is your “Growth Zone”. And we see our growth, we will seek for more.

In “Growth Zone” you will be living your dreams and will find purpose to your life. You will get excited to face new challenge and even if you fail, you will learn more and would want to explore more in the real world.

Now tell me, don’t you want that in your life? All you need to do is get out of that comfort zone and face the fear zone. Because once we learn how to face our fear zone, there is nothing in that can stop us from living the world we always wanted. And This is how you get out of your comfort zone. So, this is for today. I hope this helped you in facing the life. Do comment below your thoughts.

Lots of love

Xoxo

Jenna

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Feeling like belle from beauty and the beast (inspired by disneybound)

Disney is one of the things that have given me hope about magic, made me believe in happy endings and also in love. I always wanted to be a disney princess. From having very long hair like Rapunzel, singing with the birds and animals like snow white, talking with animals like the some of the princess, reading books like belle and mostly meeting someone who would actually love me back.

Its been almost 6-7 years or maybe more when i first discovered pinterest, where i found “Disney Bound” and it was like a love at first site about the idea of dressing up as a ‘Princess’ or any of your favorite character but with your own twist in it. Finally, i found a way to express my love for Disney and i decided to go for it. but the problem was, i wasn’t sure enough how would i do it. After doing a lot of research and putting up all my courage together, i decided to give it a chance and live my life according the way i always wanted to live.

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All the disney characters are my favourite and i decided to do my “Disney bounding” from “Belle” who inspire me a lot. i believe she resembles me a lot, from the love of reading, curious to know more things and that soft part that she has towards the beast. so, my first Disney bound outfit is inspired from Belles’ yellow gown that she wore during that dance and date with the beast. I tried and put the outfit giving a modern twist of my own. 

I wore this amazing yellow dress from kazo and i loved the material very much, along with i am wearing my only white sneakers which i got from a local store and that Mickey Mouse bag which is absolutely my favourite, i bought it from Mango people shop.

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However, my brother in law helped me out with the pictures and he is the only photographer i got till now and can demand anything. That’s how family works, right? (ha ha!) 

So, this is it. i tried my best to make it work. As i am new to blogging, don’t forget to comment down below about my outfit and look. i will try more Disney bound outfits in the future. Till then, comment below and share your thoughts and also don’t forget to share this with your friends. xoxo! 

The power of our subconscious mind

Let’s just start by saying, I hate my mental health, if I am happy for two days then I will end up doubting myself from one week. I will feel low, doubt myself, my head burns because of my anger issues, I cry at anything and my tears won’t stop coming out like I have an endless amount of water in my “tear glands” and if I start providing water supply, no one would ever face any drought in this planet. Life is really unpredictable because never in my entire life I ever thought that I will turn out to be this depressed adult with so much of social anxiety. I thought I would out-grow this but most of my friends are still in my imagination and not real. I know that sounds sad and I don’t know if I should be sharing on the internet, like literally.

I can’t control how I feel all the time, but I can control what my action will be. So, when I get angry, instead of shouting or breaking things I take deep breaths and remind myself that if I don’t want to regret later, I have to stay calm and react when I am not in a destructive mood. Same goes to, when I feel stressed or sad; I try not to think everything at once which puts me in depression every damn time. So, every time I feel stressed, I go out or have some outdoor activity like reading outside, lol. I am bad at sports and I have always been inside with either books or TV watching animax/national geographic so doing indoor activity outside are the outdoor activities for me. All I want this year is to be less toxic/ selfish people and more accomplishments (big or small) no matter its doing great at my job or brushing my teeth when I feel like killing myself. Even though it is not easy to

I will end this with a quote “What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.” – Plutarch

Holistic approach to life: Introduction

In this busy and rusted lives of today, it has become really challenging to take a second breathe for our self and examine our health. Most of our morning starts with rushing to work, running here and there, grabbing quick bites which are mostly unhealthy and by the end of the day, end up feeling tired and exhausted, having no energy to go to gym and work-out. A lot of people live their life knowing they aren’t living or feeling the way they should but aren’t really sure about what to do about it. It was same in my case, I was exhausted and was rushing everything in my life and mostly, was trying to deal with everything at once. So, I had to do something about it and after doing a lot of research in order to improve my life, I came across the term, “holistic living” and I am glad I did my research properly. Holistic living means taking care of our entire self; i.e., mind, body, emotions and soul. The dictionary definition of ‘holistic’ is the idea of holism or ‘characterized by the belief that the parts of something are intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.’

Thus, when we talk about holistic lifestyle, we are talking about living an entirely happy and healthy life. To live a holistic life, we need to take care of our entire self, not just the mind and body but our surroundings as well. In this lifestyle, we consider each and every aspect of our life. For Instance: a person who is suffering from depression, Rather than just focusing on the symptoms and prescribing the medication, a holistic therapist will focus on all the aspect of life (family, relationships, job, social issue etc) that may lead to depression. As a person with social anxiety, I visited 5 different psychiatrist in my life and all of them  would just talk to me for 5-10 mintues and end up prescribing me medication and i was sleeping all the time without my actual problems being solved. And that is why in order to solve our problems, it is important to see the bigger pictures and understand how all the factors in our life are interconnected and influence one another. Holistic living helps us to live life more intentionally with our thoughts, words and actions. It helps to increase mental clarity, happiness and energy by reducing our stress, anxiety and those overwhelm feeling.

2020 was a big year for me and I would call it the year that opened my eyes. Habits or Changes I made in the past 8-9 months of my holistic living journey:

  1. Acknowledging where I am/was/will be: The first step was to know where I was in life, what were my bad habits, it was a bit uncomfortable at first, because we as a human being have the habit of lying to ourselves as well which leads to procrastination and so many negative things in our life. I made a long list of all the things relating to my mind, body and soul. And made plan how to solve each problem and improve myself in all the aspects.
  2. Focus on one thing at a time: After writing down all the things one by one. Now I had to start making changes, which is the toughest part. Beginning is always tough! It is also important to understand that we can’t do everything at once, we might go crazy or even give up assuming it’s not for us. So, It is always better to take one task at a time because when we focus on one thing at a time, it immediately affect the other as well. For instance, I used to be weak, under-weight and have a little or no energy all the time, so I start having my dinner at 8:30 everyday and sleep before 11:00 and get a sleep on 7-8 hours a day. When I acquired the habit of waking up early, I got the time to do include yoga and meditation in my routine and slowly one by one, I started eating on time, get a sleep of 8 hours a day, do yoga and workout and try to read as much as I can. I am no longer in the category of under-weight.
  3. Research, learn and set purposeful goals: It is always important to do a thorough research on the topic that we are going to make part of our life. No one’s holistic journey can be same and therefore, it requires a lot of research and learning to find the best possible strategies to implement in our life. It is also important to set purposeful intentions and divide them into into tiny goals but first we have to set our intentions. For instance, I want to stop feeling guilty about spending too much of money, so here my intention here is to create a healthy money mindset and how can I achieve it? By making a list of all the expenditure and make plan on how to procure one habit at a time.
  4. Sticking to the plan and goals: Once, the intentions and mini goals are set, it is time to take action without procrastinating any task. It’s okay to get lost sometimes to learn the value of something, but remember not to get too lost so that all your hard work get wasted. Always visualize your higher self and work hard for it.

Living a holistic lifestyle is much easier than most people think or say. Because most people don’t understand that holistic living isn’t a destination, it’s a life-long journey. Also, holistic lifestyle doesn’t mean doing yoga, meditation, eating healthy and organic food, it’s more of a lifestyle where we actively remove all the toxic things/habits from our life and simplify it for our well-being. So, it is fitting to say, we can acquire it only by practicing and there is no need to rush everything at once, we can acquired it one by one slowly in our life. To create a holistic lifestyle, we can adapt sustainable habits and learn the art of slow living. With practice, we will be able to experience continuous growth in this holistic living journey.

My New Year resolution for sustainable lifestyle: 2021 edition

A few years ago I committed to live a sustainable lifestyle and while I am still trying to make a lot of changes in my life to living more productively and do something for the planet and myself. I thought, it would be suitable to share some of my resolutions and tactics in the hope of inspiring others to make more sustainable choices in their life.

We are hearing the word “sustainable” a lot these days by the companies and brands but are they really sustainable or just green washing? I know a lot of people want to live their life more sustainably but can’t figure out where to start. Trust me, it was tough for me as well but if we really want to do something in our life then the nothing can stop us. Also, its not that tough as it looks like. Here’s a list of 10 resolutions I want to procure this year:

  • Reduce Plastic Use: If there is one thing we can do to get started on a journey to this sustainable lifestyle, it would be to reduce plastic use on a daily basis. Plastic is one of the biggest problem and we all know how awful it is for the environment. It always end up in landfills destroying our ocean, river and basically, it’s everywhere in our place. Even though it’s really something we can’t get rid of completely but there are some alternatives we have to switch with and also, some of our habits we need to change. Like saying “no” to plastic bags and always carry a reusable grocery bag with us, Stopped buying bottled water (there is a video made by CBSN on plastic water bottle. Everyone should watch it) and start carrying their reusable water bottle which can be stainless steel, glass and other bottles made with natural fibres. Always say no to plastic cutlery like plastic straw, spoon etc. and carry your own that you have at your home made of steel, bamboo, glass etc. And since hygiene is so important, this habit will also save us from other human touch. There are many other ways to avoid plastic in our daily life like not buying groceries wrapped in plastic and buying organic food, when we are out and feel lazy to cook, instead of asking to pack with plastic we can always carry our silicon bag which is an amazing alternative and amazing one time investment. People often tell me that these eco-friendly products are so costly but can’t you see, it’s a one time investment and will last for lifetime.
  • Reduce the use of chemical in my household: A lot of cleaning products are loaded with harmful chemical which is not only bad for our environment but also for our habits. For this, there are so many eco-friendly Indian brands we can switch to. Like
  • Buy local and seasonal produce: I am trying to eat more healthy food these days and eating local and mostly, seasonal is a great option for a healthier and sustainable life. Also, there are tons of recipe out there for every single fruits and veggies. I am learning to grow herbs and veggies in my garden which is really fun.
  • Eat less meat: These livestock industry is really awful in every way, Not only eating too much of meat is bad for our health but it is also bad for our environment because they release the greenhouse gasses and you know what those gasses does to the ozone layer. From a year, I was having up and downs with my parents because they won’t let be go vegan. Only Indian kids living with Indian parents can understand this, we are not allowed to do anything no matter what our age is. Anyway, after going through a lot with my parents and showing how guilty I feel when I eat meat, I am a vegetarian now. But this year, I will try to reduce my diary consumption as well. And if someone is hard-core non vegetarian, I always suggest them to implement something like “meatless Monday” like in Hinduism, they have a day when they are not allowed to eat non-veg which I learnt from my friends
  • Embracing minimalism: The term minimalism has grown drastically in the last few years but do you know the exact meaning of minimalism. Minimalism isn’t only buying things with less print or whatsoever. Its more about buying more consciously and not buying things in the name of fashion. Slow fashion can be a great example of minimalism.
  • Be more mindful while shopping: Textile industry is only one of the polluted industry but it also exploit human rights and has so many endless issues. So, slow fashion is one of the movements which I joined two years ago and always prefer to check the values, beliefs and other information of the brands. It’s always better to buy from a local ethical brands rather than buying from fast fashion brands. Many people even complain that they don’t find their size and that’s the reason they choose fast fashion brands over the local one. I understand, Even when I was underweight, I wasn’t able to find my clothing size and had to sew my clothes. I understand, fast fashion brands are great, they are not that pricey, has so many variety, always on discount etc. but those clothes ain’t going to help you breathe when those clothes that you wore end up in landfill and destroy our eco system. And even if you think you are having benefits from those discounts, you might want to look again because with so much of discount, they are neither neither give quality products nor paying enough wages to the people who make these cheap quality clothes. So, be aware and train yourself to be a conscious consumer. Trust me, I have an MBA degree with major in finance and marketing and I have read so many case studies how these companies trick your brain and use different psychology techniques to make you buy their products. All I am telling you is to save your work hard money and use it on the use in the products that will benefit you in the long run.
  • Drive Less: Transportation is California’s largest source of carbon dioxide gas, the primary contributor to climate change. So, I prefer public transportation and I barely go out which makes it easy for me. I wish, I could normalize riding bicycle in my area, people will laugh and that will definitely make me feel uncomfortable and thinking about it makes me feel uncomfortable. Maybe, I have to learn how to not care about others viewpoint and do what I want to do which will a few more years maybe!
  • Choose to be more sustainable traveler: Use public transportation, in case of short distance, walking/cycling is a great option; In simple words, always choose transport which helps you to maintain your carbon footprint. One of my friend has this neighbour who is 70+ years old, he always take his car to masjid which is 3-4 minutes walking distance. Don’t worry he isn’t sick or anything, or else he wouldn’t be able to drive his car. He could just walk right? Walking is a great option for our health and environment as well.
  • Discuss more with family and educate each other regarding this lifestyle: Well every time I try to discuss about environment and climate change with my family, it always end in disaster. I am always the one shouting because my parents don’t bother to understand what I try to tell them. They will give one reply to everything I say, “Look everyone is doing it, what will make any difference if only we are the one doing it” it’s like saying “It’s only one plastic bag” by 1 billion people. I am finding ways to change my parents’ habit. I know a lot of people who would rather buy a plastic toothbrush costing 30 rupees rather than a bamboo toothbrush costing 80-100 rupees. Even though, I try my best not to insult them or be harsh and always remind them what kind of world we want to leave for the upcoming generation and corona virus, Bhopal gas disaster, Chernobyl gas disaster, Australian wildfires, Flood every year, Drought etc are great example but some people will always find an excuse and will say, ” this is how nature works”, ” god is punishing us”, “we only live once” etc. So, Instead of taking too much of headache, I maintain my life and try to be a good example for the people who are trying their best or don’t know where to start living a sustainable life for their health and environment.

Why I don’t like birthdays

Yes, I am writing this on my 27th birthday and I don’t like to celebrate my birthday; I mean what is there to celebrate. Every time I share this, everyone start assuming what tragic could happen on that day because how could anyone hate their birthdays. I don’t hate the day because I was born that day but the idea of celebrating every year by throwing parties or cutting cake.

So, here’s a few reason why I hate it:

  1. I will never know what to do on that specific day. For me, it is just another day of the year. Also, I don’t have friends whom I can invite because I finish my college I don’t call anyone (I hate to talk over phone calls) and they don’t care to call either and in that way, I lose all my contacts with my classmates. Also, this is my day and I get to chose what I want to do on my birthday. So, all I want to do is stay inside my room, stay in my PJ, watch my favourite show while I eat my favourite food. I don’t mind if someone wants to join in. (who will not violate my comfort zone).
  2. I don’t know why to throw parties and get drunk for that day. I generally don’t like throwing parties on my birthdays and my friends/acquaintances might think that I am a little cheapskate or tightwad but honestly, I don’t even know whom to invite to the party and will they be comfortable with each other or what if I call everyone and nobody shows up because they might be busy with their work. In my case, I don’t even like going to birthdays but sometimes I force myself to socialize and have a good relationship with people around me. Because eating alone in a crowded can also be terrifying at some point (no matter, you are in school or in work). It is not that I am going to their birthdays because I might need them in future but I genuinely care that they even invited me to their party and i like to come out of comfort zone because that is what will make me an adult, right?
  3. I get these anxiety on my birthday every year which is why I celebrating birthday. I wasn’t always like this I used to love celebrating birthdays and had a lot of expectations from others on my birthdays like I do for others in their birthday but as I grew up I started realizing how no one care about birthday or does anything special. For me, cutting cake and giving gifts can be done any day in the whole year. I don’t need a reason or occasion to give something to that someone I care about.
  4. I just hate the lime light from the wrong people who don’t care about me the whole year and would show with their artificial wishes on my birthday. Also, I am an introvert which is not the reason why I hate birthdays. This year I told my sister not to order or bake a cake but she did it anyway. I even removed my birthday from my facebook. And it is not that I am ungrateful for all the love and wishes. It is just for a person like me who doesn’t like that kind of attention. (Whether it is in my facebook wall or in real life).
  5. I just hate surprises because I just know how to act surprise. People are always like “You weren’t happy or surprised when I did something for you,” Well, I have this “resting bitch” face and if I genuinely like something I will just smile and this is how I react. I can’t jump like kids or dance on a happy song because someone did something special for me. I know most people of my age do it. I have a lot of extroverts in my family and I have seen their reactions which really disguise me, TBH! And people would talk to me out of nowhere nicely which is really unsettling for me. Thankfully, people don’t call me except for my family. Actually I am not close to anyone so, some don’t even care to call/message and a few just leave messages for the sake of doing it.

I don’t completely hate birthdays but i would love if people would wish or give me gifts because they actually care and not for the sake of birthday. I won’t mind celebrating my birthday with the people who actually care to check on me and will be there for me, even when i am at my worst; like i would do for them.Even though we should not expect too much from others but it feels great when people live up to expectations and shows how much they care just by being there for us.

19 Things I learnt in the year 2019

Every year I end up saying “could this have been any worse” and promise myself to be productive and self-aware, but end up making the same mistake all over again. Heart-break, Anxiety, Promising myself that I won’t be doing the same mistake again but it’s a loop that I have fallen into and trying to get out it seem to be absolutely impossible. Reading so many self-help books didn’t help either and keep cussing myself “why am I like this” “maybe I wasn’t born to live this long” “what am I suppose to do?” and so on. So, here are the 19 things that I learnt this year:

  1. Make no promises: I am not going to make any promises anymore and end up feeling guilty of not doing it in future. Sometimes it’s better to live in the moment without planning anything because no matter what we are going to face: heart-breaks, loneliness and full of anxiety. Our problems will never come to an end; it will always get replaced by another new problem. Why not live in the moment and get full of surprises from our life, right?
  2. Have no Expectations: I have stopped having expectations from anyone in my life. I always had this myth about myself that I am not good in relationships and maybe that’s the reason I always end up being alone. Even though I thought I was bad in relationships, I had lot of expectations from everyone. From looking at my family celebrating my sisters’ birthday, I always thought I would get the same treatment but BOOM! I never got anything as I was really not good at studies and almost failed in my class 8 and had to study again in the same class with the juniors. So, it is better to not have any expectations, not from anyone and myself as well.
  3. Say no to Jealousy: Jealousy is the destruction of everything. This year is a kind of up and down in my relationship. Every time I started to trust someone, they will make me realize I am better being alone, whether they are my family member or a guy I fall in love with (there is only one guy though!). I get jealous every time someone gets too close to someone love and that is in case of friendship as well. I need to understand that I am a part of their life and need to let them live a free life instead of trying to make rule for them. Anyone wants to be independent in their life and we just need to support them.
  4. Mistakes are okay: It is perfectly okay to make mistakes but we also need to understand which mistake we need to prioritize and solve. It is impossible to solve all the problems at once, and that is why we need to know what problem needs to be solved at what time.
  5. Face your problems: Running away from our problems will fuel it and make it impossible for us to solve it later. I have this habit of ignoring my problems and try to sleep it off. Continuously thinking about the problem will only get us anxiety, it is better to focus on the solution because problem will never leave us alone, it will get replaced by a new problem. Instead of worrying about the worries, why not focus on the solutions, right?
  6. Share your happiness, not problems: I always thought that sharing my problems will make me weak but the actual truth is no matter how close we are with a person, nobody continuously wants to hear our problem. I tried an experiment of recording my voice by saying all my problems and tried to listen to it. But guess what happened? Even I don’t to hear my own problem. I know that’s funny but nobody wants negativity in their life. Why not cut the crap, just write down our problems along with the solutions and try to solve it but never read it again.
  7. Learn to say ‘NO’: It is good to say “yes” and reach out to the people who need us. But learning the art of saying no without hurting anyone is also an act of self-love. We need to understand who is good for our health (mentally and physically) and try not to get attached with the wrong one. I understand it is hard to know who the right one for us and vice versa. Take your time; after all time teaches us a lot of things.
  8. Attitude is everything: Yes, attitude is surely everything but the most important thing is keeping the right attitude for the right situation. We should not lose our mind and do whatever feels like when we are angry. Even if we are angry we need to handle situations like a human being who understands the difference between good and bad. The right attitude also doesn’t mean we have to be positive all the time no matter what kind life situations we face.
  9. Not important for everyone: I had a real hard time in accepting the fact that I might not be important for the person who is important for me. If I love a person, I do it unconditionally. And when someone loves unconditionally, that person goes through a lot of heart-breaks and needs to understand the person might not love us back. Therefore either to sign up to not love anyone until someone loves you unconditionally or you love a few of the people in your life let them break your heart and come back stronger than ever.
  10. Keep learning new things: Make learning as a part of daily routine. Read a book or do yoga or learn about the thing which you were passionate as a kid. It will make us active; even though it will be frustrating for the first few days but did we stopped walking when we were learning it for the first time? Even though we would stumble into something or fall, we didn’t stop ourselves from learning.
  11. Wake up every day like starting a new life: I can’t even remember how many times I have started a new life in 2019 which doesn’t necessarily mean I went some unknown place where nobody knows me (happens only in movies). Starting a new life can be practised everyday and it does feel good. To be honest, for me it is really tough to consistently follow a routine, something will always pop-up out of nowhere. So, why not live a life like we just got a new one which will last only one day.
  12. Practice makes everything perfect: Yes, it is really an important line to live by. If we want to do something, we have to start as a beginner and practice it every day. Because no one is born perfect, we have to accept our flaws and keep working on it. All the famous people in the world start as a small, accept their flaws, work hard and make it a part of their life.
  13. If it were easy, everyone would do it: Don’t you think if it were so easy to do what the successful people do, everyone would have done that and be successful and no one had any worries in their life. Nothing is easy or can be done in a day. Don’t get stress over everything. It is okay to get stressed over a thing but not doing anything is not okay. If you are having anxiety and don’t know what to do about it, go to a mental therapy or see a psychiatrist. There is nothing to feel bad or ashamed to seek help to a professional. And it is also okay to visit a doctor alone because it is a part of adulting. (unless someone is not an adult)
  14. Regretting will not change your past: I have a lot of regret in my life and if I could, I would have changed my past but that is impossible. Therefore instead of regretting, it is better to learn what went wrong and try to not make the same mistake in present or future.
  15. Meditation is not the answer but will help: I have tried and miserably failed in it but that doesn’t mean that I will not meditate again. Meditation might be tough for the first few days or even months but it will definitely help to make you calm. Don’t worry; we can meditate any time throughout the day or before sleeping. Have patience and just try it.
  16. Learn to express gratitude: Expressing gratitude over every small thing is not easy. It might feel awkward for the first few times but if we keep this in practice, we will learn how much we are worrying. Instead focusing on the small things will make us realise how far we have come in our life and that will keep us motivated
  17. Be a good listener: Most of us talk, just for the sake of talking but in reality do we even listen to a person about what he/she is really trying to say? Sometimes instead of replying to someone’s’ problem by comparing with ours, we should try asking more about the topic and learn what he/she is trying to say. We might find a solution to our problem as well. I have learnt that we should never react to a problem like “this is nothing, when I was…” We all have our problem or amazing skills or lots of moment out there but just wait for a second and watch the person saying the story, the excitement, expression because won’t you feel amazing if someone does the same with you?
  18. Random act of kindness: Random act can be holding a door open or buying a lunch for a homeless person or cooking something for your loved one or even talking to the old woman living alone next to your house etc. Doing a random act of kindness will not only make us feel great but also will make the other person feel special. I have learnt that doing these things often makes me put a smile throughout the day and keeps my mind with full of positivity.
  19. Master your mindset in all areas: It is easier said than done but if we really want to do it; first we have to learn about our bad and good habits. For instance If I feel really negative about something, I used to sleep it off and try not to deal with it. But the main fact is we have to learn how to fight with the negativity in our mind and for that every time I feel bad about myself, I listen to motivational podcast and try really hard to focus on each and every word the person is saying. I have learnt that the only one that can change my life and get rid of all the negativity is me. So, why not at least try it right?